The Beginners Guide to Strap On Dildos

The Beginners Guide to Strap On Dildos

Fancy sparking an extra bit of magic in between the sheets with your lover? Strap-on play is an exciting sexual act that knows no gender. It can be enjoyed by anyone in a variety of different ways, and is an excellent way to spruce things up and transform the sexual dynamic within your relationship.

Essentially, strap on dildos are a game changer. They not only allow people to experiment with different roles, but are also a way to give and receive new kinds of pleasure in an intimate and daringly delicious way. 

Are you ready to explore the ins and outs of this seductive pleasure product with our beginners guide to strap on dildos? 

Beginners Guide to Strap Ons

First and foremost, before any of the fun begins, talking with your partner about strap on sex is mandatory. For this fun activity to take place, there needs to be consent, mutual enthusiasm, and a genuine curiosity to play.

If you’re the one hoping to initiate the conversation, find a moment when you’re both relaxed and in good spirits. Gently approach the topic and be sure not to be forceful or judgemental. We all have our quirks, kinks, and sexual interests, so if they’re not entirely up for this kind of fun, that’s okay! If you’ve piqued their interest however, well… let the games begin.


Talking to your partner could include asking questions like:

  • Would you be open to researching the topic a bit more with me?
  • Do you prefer a realistic or a non-realistic dildo?
  • What position is appealing to you?
  • Would you be interested in browsing a few strap-on dildos to see if any catch our interest?

Interestingly however, if your partner feels as though strap-on sex doesn’t really float their boat, you could enjoy the activity solo! One way would be to get a masturbation sleeve, tucking it into the sofa, and humping it whilst wearing a harness. See? The possibilities are seemingly endless.


Let’s get into some basics… 

What is a Strap On Dildo?

A strap-on dildo is a wearable dildo that is attached to a harness or a vaginal plug, and then used to penetrate a partner. The most popular strap-on dildo is one that is used with a harness, but you could opt for one that’s strapless, requiring the user to use their pelvic floor muscles to keep it in place. 

What’s great about strap-on dildos is that it can be used to penetrate different erogenous zones, such as the G-spot, the cervix, and the prostate. This alone makes it something intriguing to try with someone you’re lusting after.

Are There Different Varieties of Strap On Dildos?

There are definitely different varieties of strap-on dildos to choose from, making it even more thrilling. Each strap-on dildo has its own unique characteristics, style, and ways to use it, so familiarising yourself with the different kinds will ultimately benefit you when you start strap-on play.

9 Different Varieties of Strap-On Dildos

Boxer-Brief Strap-On Dildos: This kind of strap-on doesn’t have straps but instead, the dildo is attached to a pair of boxer-brief underwear. These strap-on dildos are perfect for beginners, as they’re easier to navigate and they reduce the risk of chafing.

Curved Strap-On Dildos: This kind of strap-on dildo was made in such a way that it has direct access to the G-spot or the prostate. Its curved design helps stimulate these spots with ease, creating even more orgasmic potential.

Double Strap-On Dildos: For partners who want to give and receive at the same time, a double strap-on dildo comes with two comparably-sized dildos. This allows both the receiver and the giver to experience penetrative bliss, either in the form of vuvla-to-vulva penetrative sex, or vulva-to-anal sex penetration.

Hollow Strap-On Dildos: Like a penis extender, this is a strap-on dildo in which a penis owner can insert their penis to add more length and/or girth. This kind of strap-on is great for those with erectile dysfunction, or for those who simply want to add more to what they already have.

Pegging Strap-On Dildos: These kinds of strap-ons are for anal penetrative sex (more on pegging below). They’re usually slimmer, aiding in more comfort for the receiver.

Removable Strap-On Dildos: A removable strap-on uses something called “O-rings” to allow the wearer to change the dildo depending on their desires. This is a great choice for those who like a bit of variety and want to experiment with different-sized dildos.

Strapless Strap-On Dildos: A strapless strap-on dildo doesn’t come with a harness. Instead, it has a vaginal plug that’s inserted by the wearer so that both partners can experience penetrative sex at the same time. 

Double Penetration Strap-On Dildos: This kind of sex toy come with two dildos so that the receiver can experience double penetration either in the form of vaginal and anal, or two dildos in the vagina or the anus.

Vibrating Strap-On Dildos: This is simply a strap-on that vibrates. It could come in various different styles, yet has one thing in common: its vibrational capabilities. 

How Do You Use Your Strap On Dildo with Your Partner?

Now that we’re up-to-speed with the different variety of strap-ons, it’s safe to say that using one with your partner will vary, depending on which one you choose. But there are some tips and steps that are applicable to all strap-on dildos.

For one, talking about how you’re going to use it beforehand is important, as well as communicating your thoughts and feelings after. It’s also a good idea to make sure that you have all of the right equipment on-hand before you start strap-on play, such as lube, and all the bits and pieces needed to fully enjoy strap-on sex.

It’s also a good idea to get comfortable with wearing the strap-on before you try it for the first time. You could wear it around the house, allowing yourself the time to reduce any anxieties or discomfort. In addition, watching videos and reading how-to guides on using your chosen strap-on is an excellent idea.\

Lastly, remember to go slow as you navigate your new experience. The receiver of penetration, especially if it’s anal sex, needs time to become comfortable in such a way that both parties can enjoy the ride. Slow and steady wins the race.

What is Pegging?

Pegging is when a person without a penis uses a strap-on dildo with the intention of penetrating a penis-having partner, anally. 

There are still so many stereotypes and taboos surrounding penis-owners receiving anal penetration, especially those who are heterosexual, but quite honestly, there’s a lot of pleasure to be had when penis-owners are anally stimulated. This is because the prostate can be found inside of the anus. 

When this walnut-sized gland is stimulated, it has the power to bring about stronger, more intense, and oftentimes full-body, orgasms. 

What Size Strap On Dildo Should You Use?

There are two factors that come into play when deciding what size strap-on dildo to use:

One, this depends on your harness. Some harnesses can only fit a certain size or style of dildo, so be sure to research this beforehand. Other strap-on dildos allow you to custom your dildo choice, as it comes with O-rings.

Two, if you have the freedom to choose your own dildo, the most important aspect is comfort and safety. If you’re a beginner, opting for the biggest dildo for your harness may not be the best idea. 

Additionally, if you’re trying pegging for the first time, you definitely don’t want to go for the biggest dildo. The trick is to start small and be underwhelmed as opposed to overwhelmed. Remember that it’s the decision of both partners to choose a strap-on dildo that they deem suitable for strap-on sex.

Recommended Strap On Dildos and Harnesses

Fun Factory Strap & Bound Harness

Have it any way you like it with the Fun Factory Strap & Bound Harness. This strap on harness is made of soft denim, is 100 percent vegan, and allows you to attach your favourite dildo. It’s also machine-washable, and professionally handmade for that extra peace of mind. Enjoy vaginal or anal pleasure with any kind of dildo with a base and diameter of up to 4.5 cm, and feel the luxurious hip belt and two-leg straps against your hips and lap. 

Vac-U-Lock Dual Density Starter Set

Perfect for beginners, the Vac-U-Lock Dual Density Starter Set comes with all of the saucy bits and pieces you need to get started with strap-on dildos. It comes with a unisex adjustable harness, three dildos of varying sizes, three O-rings, a removable suction cup, lubricant, toy cleaner, and Vac-U-Powder for that extra clean finish. Play around with your chosen dildo and enjoy the new and sexy sensations.

Fun Factory ShareVibe Vibrating Silicone Strapless Strap-On

For those who don’t want to fuss with harnesses, and those who want to share the pleasure, the Fun Factory ShareVibe Vibrating Silicone Strapless Strap-On was made for lustful couples. To use it, simply insert it in one partner who will hold it in place using their PC muscles, and go forth with penetration. This kind of strapless strap-on not only enhances pleasure for both partners, but also enhances skin contact between lovers.

Body Extension Hollow Strap-On

This unisex hollow strap-on is versatile and made of soft silicone. It’s a great way for vulva-owners to experience the feeling of wearing a strap-on, and it’s also an excellent chance for penis-owners to extend their length and girth. The Body Extension Hollow Strap-On from Doc Johnson is fully adjustable, genderless, body-safe and phthalate-free, so anybody can play without a care in the world. 

Fetish Fantasy Elite Double Trouble Double Penetrator Strap-On

Have you always wanted to try double penetration, but apprehensive about inviting a third or fourth partner to your play time? Or maybe you’re just looking for an easy solution to experience DP… like an all-in-one pleasure product? The Fetish Fantasy Elite Double Trouble Double Penetrator Strap-On will make all of your fantasies a reality. This strap-on dildo doubles up as a cock ring, allowing penis-owners to loop themselves in for a tight squeeze, while having a dildo below for double stimulation. This strap-on double dildo is body-safe, hypoallergenic, non-porous, and phthalate-free, making it oh so pleasurable to use.

And now that you’re well-versed in everything to do with strap-on dildos, which one tickles your fancy? Ready to enjoy a bit of pegging? Or how about sharing the passion with a strapless strap-on dildo? Whichever you choose, there’s an immense amount of pleasure to be had with these incredibly versatile sex toys!


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