How To Prepare For Anal Sex? The Healthy & Safe Way

How To Prepare For Anal Sex? The Healthy & Safe Way

Isn’t it weird that a large portion of pleasure is denied simply because of its taboo factor? And while we have advanced a heck of a lot, with more and more people engaging in anal play, there are still some ways to go. 

But, if you’re here today, we’re so happy! That’s because you’re intrigued or open-minded about anal penetration

It’s that kind of interest that will lead you to new realms of sexual pleasure. After all, anal orgasms have the power to shower us with intense pleasure—the kind of pleasure that is completely different and oftentimes better than other climaxes.

Want to know how to prepare for anal sex in a healthy and safe way? We’ve got you covered… 

Preparing for Anal Sex: The Healthy & Safe Way

First of all, anal play is amazing because it’s genderless. And that means that any and everyone can enjoy it! 

But just like many other things, it’s advised to prepare for anal sex. If one doesn’t prepare, it could turn into an uncomfortable experience and that’s exactly what we don’t want for you. 

The good news is, it’s relatively simple to prepare for anal sex. And doing so will leave you feeling more and more satisfied as you continue on this thrilling adventure.

Confused or unsure of how to prepare for anal penetration? Here are our top tips for enjoying anal play in a safe and healthy way.

But first… 

Why Is Preparation for Anal Sex Important?

Anal sex is not the same as vaginal sex because the anus is not as elastic as the vagina. In lieu of this, anal training might be an excellent idea, as it can help you feel more comfortable and ready for anal penetration (we’ll discuss that below).

Not just that, but there’s also the aspect of lubrication. The anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication as the vagina does. And you can only imagine what it may feel like to try butt play and experience penetration without a smooth glide. That is why it’s imperative to have a generous amount of lube on-hand at all times.

Then, there is the aspect of faecal matter. We know, it’s not the most thrilling topic to discuss, but it is necessary. 

We won’t lie to you, there is a small chance that a bowel movement or small amounts of faecal matter may come out during anal play. It happens because there is a slew of nerve endings in this part of the body, and when your internal anal sphincter relaxes, it signals to the body that you may just need the bathroom. 

But we hope this doesn’t discourage you. In fact, if you prepare for anal play accordingly, the chances of it happening are slim to none (more on that later).

Lastly, if you’re going to experience anal penetration for the very first time, it can be daunting—especially if you’ve never done any butt stuff at all. It’s literally penetrating a part of the body that’s never been penetrated before, so preparing for it is absolutely essential.

In other words, having anal sex without any preparation may lead to pain and discomfort, and it may also turn out to be a negative experience. 

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How to Prepare for Anal Sex & Anal Play?

Now that we’ve established why it’s so important to prepare for anal sex, let’s get to the actionable steps. For anyone that’s ready to embark on this new lustful adventure, consider this your go-to guide in preparation for anal play.

Getting Clean

Getting clean for butt stuff doesn’t involve only taking a shower. Yes, it’s important to shower beforehand to feel fresh for both yourself and your partner, but there are other reasons why you should get clean before anal play. And these reasons involve the dreaded bowel movement discussion that we touched on before.

In preparation for anal penetration, you may want to do something called douching. An anal douche is a squeezable bottle or tube to squirt water or other liquids (such as saline) up your butt in order to “clean” it. Douching before anal play will essentially wash away any poop that might be inside your rectum.

On the other hand, one could have a clean gut by having a diet high in fibre, drinking lots of water, and exercising often. But even with this, many prefer to douche for peace of mind.

There are different types of douches:

Bulb douche: this is the most common type of douche and it includes a rubber or silicone bulb and a nozzle. Water or saline will then be poured into the bulb and the nozzle will be inserted into the butt. Then, one would squeeze the bulb to release the water.

Water bag douche: this douching method includes a hot water bottle-like bag that can be hung high on a hook. There is a long tube that gets inserted into the anus, and then the liquid will be released. Usually, these come with an adapter control in order to control the flow.

Then there’s something called an enema. An enema works similarly to a douche in that it gets inserted into the anus to have water clean it out. The difference however is that an enema will go further inside and flush out more of the system. An enema can also be used for those who are constipated.

The big question now is: how do you use an anal douche and anal enemas?

How to Use an Anal Douche in 6 Easy Steps:

Step one: use only warm water

Step two: insert the nozzle into the rectum

Step three: squeeze the bulb for about 10 seconds

Step four: hold the water in for a little bit

Step five: release the water

Step six: repeat the process until the water comes out clean (about five to 10 minutes)

How to Use an Anal Enema in Five Easy Steps:

Step one: remove the cap from the nozzle of the enema

Step two: insert the tip of the nozzle inside until it is about 10 centimetres into the rectum

Step three: slowly squeeze the liquid from the container until it is empty

Step four: gently remove the nozzle from the rectum

Step five: wait for the enema to take effect (about two to 15 minutes)

And lastly, the most natural way to prepare for anal sex is to have a good ol’ fashioned bowel movement 30 to 60 minutes before playtime. Afterwards, you can clean the anal area with regular soap and warm water.

The Right Lubricants

As we mentioned above, the anus doesn’t produce lubrication naturally. That, plus the fact that the anus is not very elastic, could result in a negative experience if not prepared accordingly. We definitely don’t want that for you, as it may put you off wanting to experiment with anal play in the future. 

For that reason, finding the right lubricant for anal sex is imperative. Sure, there are tons of different kinds of lubes available today, but choosing one specifically for anal penetration may be your best bet. 

That is because it has been meticulously formulated for that part of the body, and is thicker and longer lasting than standard lubes. Anal lube has also been created in such a way that it protects the sensitive skin of the anus. 

On the other hand, choosing the right kind of anal lube is also important, especially if you’re using a condom or a sex toy. Some lubricants can tear down the materials of sex toys, and some may compromise the quality of a condom

Usually a water-based anal lubricant is a safe bet, but making sure beforehand is always a good idea.

With all of these aspects in mind, you will be able to be more safe and you’ll open yourself up to different and exciting bouts of pleasure.

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Exploring Anal Play Solo

Another great way to prepare for anal penetration is to DIY! Yes, that means enjoying solo anal play in the form of anal masturbation. For newbies to anal play, we recommend trying anal training. And for those who are slightly experienced, you could choose your favourite butt plug in an attempt to prepare for butt play

What is anal training? Anal training is when one starts off with the smallest butt plug possible to slowly get used to the sensation of anal play. You’ll want to do this gently and with patience as it may take some time (weeks/months, depending on how often you engage in anal masturbation). Don’t be discouraged if it feels strange at first, but also—do stop if it is painful. 

After you feel comfortable with the smallest butt plug, you can move up a size to a medium butt plug. You’ll want to follow the same directions and use the same caution as with the small butt plug though. Take it slow, breathe, and have patience. Listen to your body.

Finally, you can move on to the bigger butt plug. As per the other sizes, you’ll do the same routine, feeling out the sensations and stopping if you’re feeling any pain.

If you do choose to engage in anal training, there are some things to consider. First off, you’ll need a lot of anal lubricant nearby. This is to ensure comfort and to make things nice and slippery. You can apply more lube as and when the sky's the limit. 

You’ll also find it extremely helpful to buy an anal training kit as opposed to three differently-sized butt plugs separately. Because anal training is such a big thing for those who seek anal stimulation, there are a variety of these kits available, making your pleasure a priority. 

And then, even if you’re playing alone, we suggest cleaning your sex toy(s) after use. Whether you’re sharing anal sex toys with others or not, it’s always a good idea to wash them properly so as not to harbour any bacteria.

How to Practise Anal Training:

  • Make sure there’s a generous amount of lube on your chosen butt plug and around the anus
  • Insert it slowly into the rectum until you experience resistance (this is usually about five centimetres in)
  • Wait three to five seconds then remove the butt plug
  • Re-apply your chosen lubricant
  • Repeat this eight to 10 times for a total of two to three minutes per session
  • Practise this technique three times per week
  • Graduate to a larger butt plug about every two weeks

Other Tips to Consider

When preparing for anal sex, there are other tips to consider that we’ve not mentioned yet. They’re a step further to have a great butt play experience, whether you’re with a partner or you’re flying solo.


Knowledge is power! And while this helpful guide on how to prepare for anal sex in a healthy and safe way is extremely thorough, there are tons of other resources to consider before you play. 

You could find other articles online, video tutorials, read books, or even consult a friend (if you’re comfortable with that) to ask them about their experience and their tips. 

By doing your homework, you can find some easy beginner anal sex positions and other things to make your experience a memorable one.

A teaser into the best beginner positions for anal sex

Top Anal Sex Position
The bottom on top anal sex position allows the receiver to control the depth and speed. In this case, the one receiving anal penetration is called the ‘bottom’, and the one doing the penetration is called the ‘top’.
Spooning Anal Sex Position
The spooning anal sex position is great for beginners because the little spoon can move their bum and hips in such a way as to adjust the speed and intensity.
Doggy Style Anal Sex Position The doggy style anal sex position offers the greatest vantage point, which can be a big turn-on for some. It’s important however that there is open and honest communication throughout the experience, and that the penetrating partner is mindful of speed and depth.

Going Slow

By now, you’ve probably realised that going slow is important during anal sex—especially for beginners. This is not only to ensure comfort and pleasure, but it’s also a safety matter. 

If there is a lot of friction and rough behaviour during anal penetration, it could cause tearing to the sensitive skin and lining of the rectum. Our advice? Lots of lube to avoid friction, and a mindset of patience.

Talk to Your Partner

Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. And when it comes to anal play, talking about it and getting consent from your chosen partner is, of course, mandatory. 

Some other ways to talk to your partner about anal sex:

  • Talk to them when you’re not having sex: there’s space for a clear-minded conversation if you talk about it in a non-erotic setting.
  • Give your partner time: everyone is different. Some may be completely averse to the idea of butt play but others may have an interest or a strong desire to try it.
  • Give them information on anal play: talk about how you’d like to do it, different positions, possible sex toys, as well as the safety issues involved.
  • If the answer is no: you may be disappointed, which is understandable, but consent is a must. Try not to let this ruin your relationship. We advise that you don’t pressure your partner or make them feel guilty for their answer. You could also thank them for their honesty. Remember: there are tons of other ways to give and receive pleasure.
  • If the answer is yes: have a discussion on the topic. Ask relevant questions such as if they’ve experienced anal play before if they’ve used sex toys for anal penetration, and what it is about this sexual act that makes them excited.

Reminder: Never go from anal to vaginal play without cleaning up first

One of the most important ways to adhere to anal hygiene is to not ‘double-dip’ without cleaning up. This is when one puts their penis or a sex toy into someone’s anus and then into their vagina. 

The anus and the vagina are two separate entities with their own bacteria, pH levels, and so on. When you go from one to the other without cleaning up, you’re essentially spreading different kinds of bacteria to places it shouldn’t be, and disrupting the natural pH level of the area. 

This could lead to infections and other health problems that are certainly undesirable.

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When we say ‘clean up’, we mean:

Use a Towel for Extra Peace of Mind

It isn’t necessary, but if you are concerned about having a bowel movement or faecal matter coming out during anal sex, you could lay down a towel or a dark blanket. This can also be useful if you’re worried about any other mess such as lube or semen.

Engage in Different Kinds of Anal Play

If you’re not ready to go for anal penetration just yet, there are a few other things you could enjoy with a partner before you go for anal sex.

Foreplay is a great way to get the blood flowing and to heighten levels of arousal. It’ll also aid in more relaxation which is excellent when it comes to anal penetration.

Then, you could try rimming (analinguist), which is oral anal sex. This involves the stimulation of a partner’s anus with one’s mouth, lips, or tongue. It is mostly the kissing or licking of the outer edge (rim) of the anus, but it could also include penetrating a partner’s anus with the tongue.

You could also try stimulating the area around the anus with your finger or a vibrating sex toy

Then, when it comes to anal penetration, there are different ways to play. Depending on the partner and the situation, you could have a penis to anus anal sex or you could have a toy to anus anal sex (using a dildo or a strap-on, for example).

Pee After Anal Sex

Just as it's advised to pee after vaginal sex, it is too important to pee after anal sex. The notion behind it is the same in that, if you don’t pee after anal sex you could be open to bacteria that go into the urethra, causing a UTI (urinary tract infection). A UTI is a bladder infection and something that can be extremely uncomfortable. 

The symptoms of a UTI include:

  • the need to pee more often than usual
  • pain or discomfort when peeing
  • the sudden urges to pee
  • feeling as though you’re unable to fully empty your bladder
  • pain in the lower abdomen
  • cloudy, foul-smelling, or bloody urine

Focus On Pleasure, Not Orgasm

Anal orgasms are very real… and they can be entirely amazing (sometimes leading to full-body orgasms). But when you take away the element of orgasm, you’re giving yourself the chance to really get into the moment and experience different kinds of pleasure. Try to avoid thinking about ‘the end’ and simply enjoy the adventure.

Experiment With Someone You Trust

We surely don’t need to tell you that having anal sex with someone you trust will make things a lot more comfortable. If you’re with a partner that you trust and that you can openly communicate with, you’re setting yourself up to have a pleasurable experience. Instead of feeling strange or unable to communicate, you’ll have the power to talk about what you’re feeling and stop if you feel too uncomfortable. That is why we recommend enjoying this intimate act with someone you trust.

How to Know if You’ve Done It Right?

Practising anal sex isn’t exactly rocket science. But following precautions can make or break the experience.

While there are things that you should and shouldn’t do during anal penetration, you will essentially know if you’ve done it right when you: 

  • don’t experience negative consequences such as pain during and after anal sex, tearing, or blood
  • don’t get any infections afterwards

In addition, it’s important to know that some discomfort may be present during anal sex. This doesn’t mean that you’re doing it wrong, it just means that you’re slowly getting used to the sensation. If there is pain, however, you should slow down or stop all sources of penetration.

Also, if you have a bowel movement or faecal matter comes out during anal play, this doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It is the body’s natural response to this kind of stimulation.


Long story short, anal sex can be an amazing and sexually gratifying experience. And we want you to enjoy it as much as possible. 

By following these tips on how to have anal sex safely, you’ll essentially be setting yourself up for sheer bliss.

The most important things are to stay clean, to practise safe anal sex, to always have a lot of lube with you, and to take it very slowly. The pleasure will intensify the more you practise with patience. 

Wishing you tons of safe, healthy, and firework-inducing anal sex with a partner you trust!

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