Couples who Come Together, Stay Together: The Ins and Outs of Mutual Masturbation

The Ins and Outs of Mutual Masturbation

There are a few simple pleasures in life that can’t be bought… and masturbation is one of them—lucky us! 

You may be wondering why couples would consider mutual masturbation when they could just engage sexually with their partner, e.g. giving and receiving oral sex, having intercourse, etc. Actually, there are a ton of great reasons why this sexual act is something you should totally try. Hear us out… 

What is Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is when you and someone else (a partner, for example) masturbate in front of each other at the same time.

And while many people may find the whole idea intimidating, the act itself can bring about new levels of intimacy and understanding of each other’s bodies. 

Why Should You Try Mutual Masturbation?

  • This sex act is great for those who are taking it slow, or who is still a virgin and not ready to have sex
  • It can be done via long distance
  • It’s an intimate act that can be done when penetration isn’t possible (if someone has an injury, for example)
  • There is no risk of pregnancy or spreading STI’s
  • It’s a great form of foreplay to build up arousal 
  • It can improve a couple’s sex life as you can learn what a partner likes by watching them
  • It can encourage couples to try new and different sexual experiences

Different Ways to Try Mutual Masturbation

There’s no right or wrong way to do it. It’s all about what feels comfortable for you. Here are some ideas on how you can try mutual masturbation:

Sex Toys

A large amount of women find it difficult to orgasm via penetration and have realised that the magic lies with a bit of clitoral action. 

Which is why there are too many sex toys to mention that focus specifically on the clitoris, like the SONA 2 Cruise or the Womanizer Pro. These are almost guaranteed to bring a woman to orgasm and will be a nifty device to include during your mutual masturbation session.

And don’t forget about him! The taboo surrounding men using sex toys is diminishing rapidly. There’s absolutely no reason why he shouldn’t have a little something too, like a male massager or an electronic vibration toy

Use Modern Technology to Your Advantage

The thought of having someone watch you masturbate may be daunting at first. Maybe you’re a bit nervous about them seeing you be intimate with yourself, or you feel shy to show your big ‘O’ face. 

An easier way to transition to in-person mutual masturbation would be to try it on video or on the phone first. Even a call when you’re about to come may make their day and is a step in the right direction. 

Use Dirty Talk

Stimulate your eyes, ears, and genitals with a bit of dirty talk during your play time. Dirty talk can be very arousing for some, and it’s also a way in which to tell a partner what you like in a non-threatening way. 

Alternatively, you could tell your partner what you want them to do, which too could lead to more insight into better sex in general. 

Extra Stimulation 

If you’re the type of person who usually watches porn whilst masturbating, and you feel comfortable to do so in front of a partner, this can be extremely erotic.

You could watch others engaging in mutual masturbation in a porno, and copy them. Or, you could take turns to show your partner what kind of things turn you on.

Touch Each Other

While mutual masturbation is a DIY job, a light graze on their thigh, a kiss, or a few strokes here and there can definitely bring about an even sexier mood. It can also lead to both partners feeling present and adored. 

And, if you feel like it, you could even give your partner a hand (and vice versa). 

Essentially, we don’t make the rules, you do! Which is why we encourage you to ‘do you’! Enjoy the power of mutual masturbation with someone special, and watch yourself move swiftly into newer and even more exciting sexual territory. 



Article by:
Helena Lorimer, Sexual Health and Wellness Expert at JOUJOU

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