Are you a fan of pleasure? Do you love to get intimate with a partner or play with yourself until you get that final release of bliss and sexual satisfaction? Almost all of us do.
Having said that, isn’t it quite silly to deny oneself a big source of pleasure? One that has been medically proven to result in bigger, more explosive orgasms? We think so.
Cue butt plugs for men…
Exploring Butt Plugs: Is It Time for Men to Try Something New?
While anal play is suitable and highly erotic for all bodies, today's focus will be on butt plugs for men.
This is because there is still a stigma against any kind of anal play for men. (No, anal stimulation and/or anal penetration with the opposite sex does not make you a homosexual or even bi-curious—how outdated is this social construct?).
We’re also going to be talking about butt plugs for men because it’s so often believed that only women should receive anal penetration or any kind of anal play. When the offer is reversed, the request is sometimes met with shock or a hard “no”.
Let us tell you why you, a man, should actually be considering anal play. And butt plugs are a great way to get introduced.
What Is a Butt Plug?
A butt plug is a sex toy that goes inside of the anus.
They come with a flared base to prevent it from going too far inside, then the shape itself is narrow at the bottom, gets broader, and then more narrow at the top.
It’s designed this way as a means to slowly get used to the sensation of anal stimulation.
Butt plugs are multi-purpose sex toys. You could:
- use it as an extra form of stimulation during penile penetration or masturbation (or removing it when you’re close to climax to enhance the sensation)
- wear it because you like the way it feels
- use it as a means to prepare for anal sex
In the last point, anal training is a great way for newbies to get acquainted with this new kind of sexual pleasure if they’re hoping to have anal sex.
Anal training is when you have two or three different butt plugs of varying sizes. You’ll start with the smallest one and when you’re comfortable with it, you can move up to the medium size and eventually, the bigger size.
Can Men Use Butt Plugs Too?
Can men use butt plugs too? What a question! Of course men can use butt plugs! They have a butt, don’t they? Well then, they can use a butt plug.
In fact, while both men and women can experience orgasmic pleasure during anal play, men may just have the upper hand because of the access to their prostate!
We’ll touch more on that later…
Gay, Straight or Bi - You Can Try
“Don’t knock it ‘till you try it,” seems like an apt expression here. See, as we mentioned earlier—engaging in anal play does not make you a homosexual or even bi-curious, we think it’s important to make that point strong.
Our aim is to help those who have these kinds of preconceptions to unlearn certain beliefs that are driving toxic masculinity and quite frankly, denying men the chance to discover new parts of their bodies that can result in new desires and pleasure.
It doesn’t matter how these preconceptions came into play, whether it’s a product of upbringing, social constructs, adolescence, school, or even simply believing things that they’ve heard. The goal is to remove negative feelings towards anal play.
So, we’re only going to give you information that’s factual—information that’ll prove why men can use butt plugs too, and why anal play for men is a good idea.
Why Should Men Use Butt Plugs or Engage in Anal Play?
It’s time to get technical… but in the sexiest way possible. You may be wondering why a man would ever want to engage in any kind of anal play. Heck, why would a woman want to?
Turns out, there are some serious hotspots inside the anus in both men and women. And when they’re stimulated, there’s the potential to feel a different (oftentimes better) kind of orgasm. How so?
For men, the prostate (sometimes known as the “male G-spot” or the “P-spot”) can be found inside the rectum.
What’s the prostate? It’s a walnut-shaped gland that sits below the bladder and above the penis. Its less sexy function is to produce prostate fluid (a component of semen), but if it’s stimulated… a full-body orgasm is possible. Often described as an intense wave of pleasure that is unlike any climax ever experienced before.
Prostate orgasms are also more intense because they are associated with around 12 pelvic contractions whereas penile orgasms are associated with 4-8.
Having said that, one does not simply engage in hardcore anal penetration for their first bout of anal play. The best way to start this journey, as mentioned above, would be to use a butt plug, or engage in anal training with butt plugs.
Below, we’ll guide you with the best advice for getting started with butt plugs.
Best Advice for Getting Started
Butt plugs for beginners… where do you begin? The best way would be to start with the smallest size you can find. Better yet, you may want to start with a finger or two.
Why? The anus is tight in general but when compared to the vagina, it’s very tight. It’s also not as elastic as the vagina, which means that you should definitely go slowly and lightly when you begin experimenting with butt plugs.
Another piece of advice is to always use a lot of anal lube. A lot! The anus doesn’t produce any natural lubrication (unlike the vagina) so for a smoother and more comfortable glide, lube will definitely be your friend.
With those two things in mind, here are some other things to consider before you engage in anal stimulation using a finger or a butt plug:
- If you’re using a finger make sure you’ve washed your hands and trimmed your nails (the walls of the anus are sensitive)
- If you’re using a silicone butt plug or a stainless steel butt plug, be sure to wash it with lukewarm water and antibacterial soap then towel or air dry it fully before use
- Using a body safe butt plug is always a good idea
- You may want to douche or use an enema beforehand but it’s not always necessary when using a butt plug—this is entirely your decision for your own comfort
- Give yourself enough time to ease into the experience, it could take days/weeks/or months to become used to the sensation and find pleasure
- Be patient, as pleasure is waiting for you
Then, once you’re prepared, how does one use a butt plug?
- If you’re a beginner, choose the smallest butt plug to use or buy an anal training kit
- Make sure your butt plug is washed
- Use a lot of lube on your smallest butt plug and on your body
- Hold the flared base of the butt plugs for an easier insertion into the anus, but go very slowly
- If you feel any pain or discomfort, take a rest or call it a day
- Continue trying the above steps until you’re at a place where you feel comfortable wearing your butt plugs
- After this, you may want to go up a size—if so, follow the same steps as you become comfortable with it
- Once the butt plugs is inside of you, you can choose to keep it in if it feels ok for you, or you could remove it
- You could even wear your butt plugs whilst busy or out and about
- If you choose to wear your butt plugs during penile stimulation or masturbation, it’s very likely to enhance your euphoria—especially if you pull it out on the brink of climax, but only do this when you are comfortable with your butt plugs
There are of course other ways to play, like with a partner or to use different kinds of anal stimulation or penetration. But the key to getting there very often involves some patience and practice with a butt plug or two.
After this, you have a plethora of sex toys to play with to increase your sexual tension and pleasure, such as various prostate massagers…
Product Recommendations
WeVibe Vector+ Vibrating Prostate MassagerWith its gentle pressure and rumbling vibrations, you’ll love the WeVibe Vector+. And actually, it’s a 2-in-1. This sex toy for him not only massages the prostate but also, the perineum (the space between the anus and the scrotum). Both of these spots are rife with nerve endings, creating a lustful experience and bigger orgasms. Some other perks of the WeVibe Vector+, it comes with a remote control and it can connect to the We-Connect app, it’s been created in such a way that it fits your body perfectly with its adjustable head and flexible base, it has two motors, 10+ vibration modes, is waterproof, USB rechargeable, and made of body safe silicone. |
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Lovense Edge 2 Adjustable Male Prostate VibratorHandsfree, powerful, comfortable. The Lovense Edge 2 is a glorious update from its first, with a larger bulb and a thinner long neck. It has an adjustable head that stays in place once you’ve found your perfect spot for targeted prostate stimulation, two motors for extra oomph and is highly discreet. Any other attractive pros to this prostate massager? It can be controlled via the Lovense app and your Apple Watch, you can create your vibrational patterns (heck, you can even sync your vibrations with your favourite music!), it’s IPX7 waterproof, wearable, wireless, and made of body-safe silicone. |
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B-Vibe 360 Rotating & Vibrating Prostate Massager360 degree rotation settings for heart-pounding stimulation. The B-Vibe 360 Rotating and Vibrating Prostate Massager’s internal tip massages the prostate with swoops and flicks, and its rotating head has six different speeds to find the perfect rhythm for your erotic needs. At the same time, you’ll be able to experience perineum stimulation for an extra bit of sexual bliss. This prostate massager is a winner for beginners and advanced players because of its ergonomic shape, and everyone who indulges can look forward to hands-free control, waterproof capabilities, and a smooth body-safe sex toy. |
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Fun Factory Duke Prostate Vibrating MassagerStimulate both the prostate and the perineum with Duke, a vibrating prostate massager from Fun Factory. Its main attraction is its upper bulge which gives one an incredible feeling of fullness once inserted. Duke's other perks are that it’s been ergonomically-designed, has three vibrational intensities, is rechargeable, and is made of body safe silicone. |
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Svakom Iker Prostate MassagerThe Svakom Iker Prostate Massager is actually a genderless sex toy, as it can be used to stimulate either the prostate and the perineum or the G-spot and the clitoris. A shared sex toy? Perhaps, perhaps not! Either way, it targets the sweetest spots for all bodies. The Iker can be controlled via an app, has seven vibration modes and five pulsation patterns, is discreet, waterproof, and a whole lot of fun for solo or partnered play. |
Lube Recommendations
Having introduced you to some of our top prostate massagers, we know that lube is absolutely essential when it comes to any kind of anal play. Want to find your best match?
Pjur Analyse Me Comfort Water Anal Glide 100mlThis water-based lubricant feels similar to silicone and its properties (such as the fact that it lasts longer) but without the messy side of things (like staining or stickiness). It’s also a lubricant that pairs with all sex toys, has some remarkable ingredients such as hyaluron for extra nourishment and lubricating effect, and has been made especially for anal play. |
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Pjur Back Door Comfort Water Anal GlideEnjoy extra glide abilities with the Back Door Comfort Water Anal Glide from Pjur. This is because, while it is a water-based anal lube, it has properties similar to that of silicone. With the added ingredient of hyaluron, this lube can bind large quantities of water, creating small “water cushions” for an increased lubricating effect. Plus, it’s compatible with all latex condoms and sex toys. |
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Pjur Back Door Glide Jojoba & SiliconeFor those who enjoy more vigorous anal play time, the Pjur Back Door Glide Jojoba & Silicone Lube caters for more exciting bouts of anal excitement. This is because the ingredients have been dosed at a higher concentration for the silicone-based Pjur so it is extra long-lasting and allows for smoother glides. It also contains high-grade jojoba extracts which help relax the sphincter and moisturise the skin, allowing for more hardcore adventures. |
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Intimate Earth Daring For Men 30ml Anal Relaxing SerumMade up of herbal ingredients such as clove, goji berry, aloe, and lemongrass, the Intimate Earth Daring for Men Anal Relaxing Serum is a safer and healthier option for anal lube. This organic serum doesn’t cause any numbing but rather helps the anal sphincter to relax making anal penetration more comfortable. Dare to be intimate! |
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Pjur Analyse Me Silicone GlideIf you’re looking for a long-lasting anal lube, the Pjur Analyse Me has been developed especially to enhance relaxation during anal play. Its formula includes high-grade jojoba extracts which are excellent for softening and moisturising the skin, resulting in a more relaxed sphincter without any desensitisation. The result? Euphoric anal play that’s more relaxing and enjoyable for all. Added perk? This lube is compatible with latex condoms and contains no preservatives. |
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