The clitoris has double the nerve endings of the penis and is externally roughly the size of a pea, making for more exposed nerves than anywhere else in the body. This is a source of endless pleasure for women but partners who don't understand the clitoris can leave them begging for an end due to discomfort.
As many as 85% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and its only function is for a woman’s pleasure, with climax causing anywhere from three to sixteen contractions of up to thirty seconds. But what in the world do you do with a clitoris? We want you to know and you've come to the right place to find out.
- DON'T just immediately expose the clitoris. All biology is a little different but most are hidden behind the clitoral hood. Direct stimulation, especially immediately, is too much for most women. Start with manual or oral stimulation around the clitoris and through the hood. Even work your way there, starting with the vagina and working up.
- DO use the tongue! You have amazing control over your own tongue as far as movement, pattern, and friction. The soft, wet sensation of the tongue on and around the clitoris is irresistible. Move in circles around and on the sides of the clitoris.
- DON'T forget fingers! Every woman has different preferences, so experiment. Many women like to be fingered vaginally while oral focus is on the clit. Switch it up some too. Play with the clit with soft fingertips while sinking the tongue into the vagina.
- DO use long strokes. For some reason partners use a lot of flicking action down there. Somewhere some woman may love this, but for most of us - no. Work her up slowly with well-controlled, long and repetitive strokes.
Let's not forget toys! Sex toys tend to produce deeper and longer orgasms than manual and oral stimulation because it's what they're specifically designed for and they have less margin for error - place it how you want it and it moves in the same repetitive motion.
The Pocket Rabbit is a favourite and is great to use solo or with a partner. It has dual motors so you can use different speeds in the ears and the shaft, and it´s extra long so there's more surface contact space, also creating faster speeds. It´s small and can be used on the run, packed for travel, or stored in the bedside drawer.
The Clit Flicker is another favourite, a cock ring with vibration so vaginal stimulation occurs while also pressing the clitoris. Orgasms are much stronger with this simple tool that packs a powerful punch.
The Lay-On Rabbit is another toy from the famous Rabbit line and is perfect for hands-free solo stimulation. If you want a little more pressure without feeling like your arm is buzzing from the vibrations, or you want your hands free for other activities, or you're just tired, the name gives it away - all you have to do is lay on it. Braced by the mattress and with your weight placed upon the rabbit ears, it delivers powerful stimulation to the clitoris.
The Her Kit Clit has only stimulator but several interchangeable heads to change things up. The pack is great for those of us who know what we like but don´t want to be bored either.
The Little Secret Whisper is amazing for use on the clitoris or the perineum, and the shape of this toy makes it great for internal and external use, providing powerful vibrations at the perfect angle. It's small, discreet, and waterproof so you can take it anywhere.
Women have always known that the best way to pleasure themselves is with the circular motion of a fingertip. Zumio makes that proven motion even better, so you can experience a wide variety of new, wonderful sensations.
The clitoris is a mystery to many of us but it´s source as a woman's greatest pleasure doesn't have to go ignored. Use the tips here to keep your partner coming over and over, and get a few toys for her to enjoy when you are not available!
Article by Sara at JOUJOU