Beginner's Guide to Sex Toys

The Complete Guide to Sex Toys for Beginners

There are so many reasons why sex toys are essentially the best thing since sliced bread. For one, there are a seemingly endless number of ways in which you can enjoy them solo, and don’t forget about the sexy kinds of stimulation you can bask in with a partner. And of course, there’s that added bonus of achieving intense and lust-worthy orgasms on the regular.

Basically, we know that sexual exploration is important, and we also know that self-care is a basic need. Sex toys offer us all the chance to get to know our bodies on a more intimate level, and they allow us to enjoy all of the mental and physical benefits that they offer. 

From self-love, confidence, and happy hormones to better relationships and spicier sex lives, sex toys are magical pleasure products that deserve a spot in your nightstand.

So, if you’re new around here, ready to get started with your very first sex toy, we suggest you hang out a while! We’ve compiled a concise, informative, and cheeky guide to sex toys for beginners that’ll get you buzzing in no time.

Are you a sex toy newbie? On the fence about using a sex toy for the first time? Or maybe you’re with a partner who’s intrigued about using toys in the bedroom! 

There are a slew of reasons why using a sex toy is a good idea, but before we indulge in the different kinds of sex toys, and some other FAQ, we want you to know something important: sex toys are tools, and they don’t replace people

It’s common for some individuals to feel somewhat apprehensive or even intimidated by sex toys, as they may believe that they will replace human intimacy. And to that, we want to give you an analogy:

Imagine a car mechanic who’s excellent at their job. They can fix cars to perfection, they love what they do, and you can always rely on them to get any job done. But even the most skilled mechanic needs tools, right? Now take said mechanic and give them a slew of up-to-date, state of the art tools and equipment, and they’ll be able to get the job done quicker and more effectively. 

In this analogy, the skills of the car mechanic are essential, making them qualified to do their job. The tools and technological bits and pieces are merely added bonuses that enhance the result. The same goes for sex toys…

Partnered play is a way in which to feel closer, intimate, and affectionate with another human. It provides us with warmth and interaction that we, as humans, crave. Sex toys don’t offer any of those things. Yet, when they’re paired, you can expect fireworks in the bedroom.

Got it? Great! Now that we’ve given you a reasonably persuasive argument on why sex toys are amazing, let’s get into the more nitty gritty!

Understanding the Different Kinds of Sex Toys

Just as diverse as the world is, so are our individual sexual tastes, fantasies, kinks, and fetishes. One person may love a certain type of kiss on their inner thigh, another may love a luscious bite on their neck, for example. 

And because we’re all so wonderfully unique, there are different kinds of sex toys available to suit a variety of sexual appetites. 

If you’re a sex toy beginner, we suggest experimenting with different kinds of sensations and stimulations to find one that makes your toes curl. You could consider taking a peek at:

  • Dildos: non-vibrating sex toys used for internal stimulation
  • Clitoral Vibrators: sex toys that stimulate the clitoris
  • G-Spot Vibrators: sex toys that stimulate the G-spot
  • Rabbit Vibrators: sex toys that stimulate both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time
  • Wand Vibrators: a less-targeted vibrator to use externally on erogenous zones
  • Bullet Vibrators: a petite sex toy usually for external stimulation
  • Oral Sex Simulation Toys: a sex toy that feels similar to that of receiving oral sex
  • Couples Vibrators: a sex toy that is usually used during penetrative sex
  • Butt Plugs: a sex toy that’s inserted into the anus for pleasure or preparation of anal sex
  • Anal Beads: an anal sex toy that is slowly inserted and removed for stimulation
  • Cock Rings: a sex toy that’s worn by him for bigger and stronger erections
  • Prostate Massagers: an anal sex toy for him that stimulates the prostate
  • Male Masturbators: a sex toy that mimics a sleeve and enhances male masturbation
  • Bondage Gear: sex toys that add an element of BDSM into your play time
  • Lubricants: various lubes for better sex, either tasteless and odourless, or flavoured, warming, or cooling

What are Different Materials Used in Sex Toys?

Once you’ve found a sex toy that tickles your fancy, another aspect to consider may be the kind of material it’s made from. 

The most common materials used in sex toys:

  • Jelly
  • Rubber
  • Silicone
  • Glass
  • Stainless Steel

Of these, silicone is arguably the most popular sex toy material. Silicone is non-porous, making it easy to clean, and often, a silicone sex toy is body-safe. 

Glass and stainless steel sex toys too are popular sex toy materials, and are not just as easy to clean as silicone, but also allow the user to experience a bit of saucy temperature play. 

TPR/TPE, jelly, and rubber are more commonly used for some male sex toys. These kinds of sex toy materials are porous, so they should washed with extra care.

Should You Use Sex Toys Solo or Partnered?

You should use sex toys with whomever you want to! We are all about exploring and experimenting, but we’re also all about advocating others to do what feels the most comfortable for them. 

We can however, provide you with a few reasons why using a sex toy solo and using a sex toy with a partner, respectively, are both fantastic ideas…

Benefits of Using a Sex Toy Solo

  • You can explore your body, finding new spots that induce arousal
  • You can seduce yourself
  • You can adore your body
  • You can feel more empowered
  • You can experience higher levels of self-confidence
  • You can experience a rush of feel-good hormones
  • You can ease (menstrual) pain, short-term

Benefits of Using a Sex Toy with a Partner

  • You can have a spicier sex life with more variety
  • You can explore new parts of your partner’s body
  • You can experience bigger and better orgasms
  • You can become more open-minded, which may lead to other sexual adventures
  • You can start to have a more open channel of communication with your partner
  • You can spend more time on foreplay
  • You can enjoy longer sessions with your lover

Where Do You Keep Your Sex Toys?

Your living situation and circumstances may influence where you keep your sex toys. If you’re still living with family or friends, and you need more privacy, you could opt to hide your sex toys:

  • In an empty suitcase on a higher shelf in a closet
  • Inside an empty tampon box
  • Inside your socks
  • In a bag or box under your bed

If you’re flying solo or live with a partner who is equally as excited about owning a sex toy or two, then you have absolute free reign as to where you keep your sex toys. In fact, some even use their sex toys as pieces of decoration around the home.

Regardless of where you keep your sex toys however, it’s important that you clean it before and after use, using the correct procedures (which will depend mostly on what type of material your toy is made of). 

We also suggest you keep your toys inside something soft, like a satin pouch.

Do you Need to Use Lube with Your Sex Toys?

You don’t need to use lube with your sex toys (unless you’re using an anal sex toy), but it definitely does aid in better and more slippery fun. 

Lube is a sexual wellness product that not only helps with vaginal dryness, but also helps induce more pleasure for both partners. 

A wet glide using a simple water-based or silicone lube can be entirely erotic, not to mention all of the other types of lube on the market…

Today, you could opt for flavoured lube, giving you the chance to taste and smell your favourite scent whilst enjoying oral sex or bouts of foreplay. 

Or, you could go for a warming or cooling lube. A warming lube will essentially warm up the muscles and create an erotic kind of sensation on the skin, while a cooling lube will give off a slightly icy yet arousing effect.

Are Sex Toys Sent in Discreet Packaging?

At JOUJOU, our sex toys are always sent in discreet packaging. If you decide to indulge, we’ll ship your pleasure product in a plain brown box that will have no identifying markings. 

Our packages also come with tracking, and most countries that we deliver to will require a signature upon delivery. What does that mean for you? No nosey Nancy’s signing and opening your inconspicuous parcel!

With that peace of mind, why don’t we jump into the more sexier side of sex toys? That is, how to choose your first sex toy!

How to Choose Your First Sex Toy

The fun part has officially arrived! Now that you know the ins and outs of sex toys for beginners, you can have a gander at the different kinds of sex toys, and decide which one you think will be the most sensual.

To make things easier, we’ve organised the sex toys into five different categories! Find your bliss and ramp up your sex life… you deserve it!


Vibrators are an umbrella term for just about any sex toy that, well, vibrates. Vibrators can be used by all individuals, regardless of gender or orientation, and they’re an easy and fun way to not only stimulate your sweet spots, but also your other erogenous zones. From internal to external stimulation, or a piece of magic that gives you both internal and external stimulation, you’ll find your bliss.


Dildos are great for those who either want to start with sex toys slowly, those who don’t particularly like the idea of something that vibes, or for those who want to use them for activities like pegging. Dildos oftentimes have a life-like phallic appearance, but not always, and are a great starting sex toy for newbies on the scene.


Anal toys are perfect for those who either want to experiment with anal play or for those who would like to prepare for anal sex at their own pace. Using an anal toy is a slow yet euphoric experience, and offers all genders different kinds of sexy sensations.

Male Toys

For the gentleman who wants to enhance their masturbation routine, or who would like to have even more fun during partnered play, male toys were made for uninhibited ecstasy. They’re an excellent tool to feel different kinds of stimulation that are new and usually even better than what you’re used to. From vibrating cock rings and anal play, to male masturbators, there’s something erotic for all penis-owners.


For a bit of spicy play, bondage gear can be used by couples who want to take their bedroom antics to new heights. There are so many different ways to use bondage gear, so you could start off small to see how you like it, then work your way up to bigger and more delicious bondage pieces. Spice up your sex life...who knows where your pleasure may lead.

Our Product Recommendations



Shop JOUJOU: Bodywand 2.0 Original Japanese Massager Multi-mode

Bodywand 2.0 Original Japanese Massage Multi-Mode

Bask in absolute royalty with this state-of-the-art wand vibrator that’s powerful and precise. If you’re after a smooth and luxurious feel, and a sex toy that’s made of silky silicone, then you’ll fall in lust with the adorable plug-in Bodywand personal massager. Enjoy general stimulation and intense massages on your aching muscles and/or some delicious clitoral stimulation! 



Shop JOUJOU: Njoy Pure Wand - Stainless Steel Dildo

Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

Want to see what all the fuss is about with the Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo? This pleasure product is a favourite for many, as it’s perfect for both vulva and penis owners. Use it to massage your G-spot or your P-spot, and you’ll be in absolute sexual euphoria. Another perk is its sleek and sexy design that comes with a satin-lined hinged box. Luxury is always on the cards with this Njoy sex toy.



New Sensations Novelties COLOURS Dual Density 8” Realistic Silicone Dildo

For a life-like experience, this 8” silicone dildo hits all the right spots. It’s made of platinum-grade silicone, has a strong suction cup for all kinds of solo play, and is compatible with all lubes. As easy as easy gets, you can enjoy the real deal with this New Sensations Realistic Dildo.

Tip: consult our additional guide to finding the perfect dildo!

Male Toys


Shop JOUJOU: Satisfyer Men One Textured Male Masturbator

Satisfyer Men One Textured Male Masturbator

Made for ultimate satisfaction, the Satisfyer Men One Textured Male Masturbator will give you that real-feel experience...or perhaps even better! Level up on your masturbation game, and get the feeling of real penetrative sex with a sleek and seductive male masturbator. Lined with textured grooves and nodules, perfected with delicious pressure, you’ll be treated to more erotic solo masturbation sessions.



Shop JOUJOU: Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition First Time Fantasy Kit

Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition First Time Fantasy Kit

Get started with all kinds of fetish play with a kit made for beginners! The Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition First Time Fantasy Kit has all the bells and whistles you need in order to have the best time ever! It includes a feather tickler, a love mask, a breathable ball gag, a rope whip, and love dice. A variety of fetish gear so you can start slow and work your way up to new and more thrilling experiences when you’re ready. 

Rabbit Vibrators


Shop JOUJOU: Fifty Shades Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator 

A gorgeous pleasure product brimming with orgasmic potential, you’ll be able to experience your best orgasm yet with the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. This sweet treat is made of silky silicone, has 36 variations of vibrational speeds and intensities, is waterproof, and travel-friendly. It’s also got two motors, ready to tease you with internal and external stimulation, for an intense bout of solo or partnered play.

Fancy seeing more of our rabbit vibes? Check out our best selling rabbit vibrators here.

Cock Rings


Shop JOUJOU: Satisfyer Royal One Vibrating Silicone Penis Ring

Satisfyer Royal One Vibrating Silicone Penis Ring

Fit for a king, the Satisfyer Royal One Vibrating Silicone Penis Ring looks like a million bucks… and feels like one too! Simply slip this bad boy over your shaft, and experience harder more power erections, during solo play or penetrative sex! Another perk? Use the Satisfyer Connect app and play with all the erotic custom settings with your lover for an even sexier sex life! This vibrating cock ring was made for those who want the very best of the best.

Butt Plugs


Shop JOUJOU: Petite Sensations Bubbles Black VIBRATING ANAL BEADS

Rocks Off Petite Sensations Bubbles Black Vibrating Anal Beads

A perfect pleasure product for newbies and those who want to indulge in anal play, Rocks Off Petite Sensations Bubbles Vibrating Anal Beads is a true winner. It has a firm handle making it easier to insert and remove, gets larger in size as you continue to play, and is soft and luscious to the touch. But what’s arguably the best thing about this gorgeous pleasure product? It’s like the best of the best, as you can use it as a plug without the vibrations, or you could feel it tremble with delight, giving you all kinds of pulsating and vibrating bliss. Alternatively, for more experienced players, this piece of art can be worn all-day for that extra prep in your step.

Interested in learning more about anal play, and butt plugs and how to use them? Here’s our ultimate guide to butt plug sex toys!

Clitoral Stimulation


Shop JOUJOU: Satisfyer Pro 2 Clitoral Stimulator

Satisfyer Pro 2 Clitoral Stimulator

Why go for just one when you can have multiple? The Satisfyer Pro 2 Clit Stimulator has the power to give you multiple orgasms, jolting you into a whole new realm of pleasure. It’s waterproof, uses Air-Pulse Technology to stimulate and suckle on your sweet spot, and is made of medical-grade, sleek silicone. This is one of the best clit stimulator sex toys on the market today, and is perfect for those who truly want to indulge in their more feminine and sexual side.

Read more about our best selling clitoral stimulation sex toys here


Have you found a sex toy that makes your heart skip a beat? Ready to take the plunge and begin your sexual journey with the use of a sex toy? Whether you’re going solo or indulging with a partner, these pleasure products will take you to a whole new level of satisfaction, leaving you wanting more and more.

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