Your typical bucket list is a random assortment of things you’d like to do before you kick the bucket. Perhaps you’d love to visit Bali? Jump out of an airplane? Go skiing in Switzerland? But why limit yourself when it comes to living adventurously? There are so many things you could add to your more intimate bedroom bucket list that’ll drive you (and him or her) crazy.
So, for the adventurous couples, solo’s, threesomes and more-somes, here are some spicy things that you simply must try before you die!
- Public Sex
Public sex isn’t as black and white as you may seem, and it can come in many different forms. It’s not merely about the act of having sex in a fitting room or in an elevator (cliché). Let your dirty mind wander! You could visit a secluded forest, do it in a swimming pool, at your office, on a balcony, or in a hotel room with ceiling high windows.
You could also ease your way into public sex by grinding against each other in a crowded bar or club - or mutually grinding up against other people for your and your partner’s pleasure!
- Go 50 Shades
With BDSM on the rise, it’s becoming a lot more acceptable to try new and kinky things in the bedroom. For a rather spicy bedroom bucket list, go 50 shades on your partner! Of course, you don’t need a “red room” or even any high-tech toys and gadgets. Start off small with BIJOUX INDISCRETS POÊME: BODY PAINT AND FEATHER TICKLER PEN that can be used for seduction and kink. Tickle your partner all over to create an intense build up. And if you’re feeling more daring, go for the riding crop that can also be used as a trick or treat for your (blindfolded?) partner.
- Role Playing
This is something that should be on everyone’s bedroom bucket list! And for those who are shy yet curious, there are some subtle ways to ease your way into some fantasy fun, such as dirty talk. Even dressing up in a costume is considered role playing!
For the more daring – be anything or anyone you want to be! Re-enact your favourite sex scene from a film, be total strangers, play doctor-nurse, teacher-student, film yourself, or anything else that tickles your fancy. Use your imagination, and it’ll be one of the hottest sex sessions you’ve ever experienced.
It seems so simple, but if you have sex in front of a mirror (even better, a ceiling mirror), it’s so empowering and such a turn on. Picture watching your favourite porno, except you’re the star!
Do it doggy-style so you can both watch yourself, and each other, while embracing one another. Use your hands to press against the mirror to create an even more intimate reflection. For the ladies, get on your knees and give him a blowjob so he can see you from behind and from the front. One simple prop can really spice things up for you and your partner.
- Have a Threesome
This is probably one of the biggest bedroom bucket list items, and for good reason… it is mind-blowingly fun! Get involved with either a friend of yours or your partner’s, go to a swinger’s club or a regular night club, or simple use an app to find someone who you both fancy. Whether it’s a MMF or a FFM, it’s guaranteed to be a good time not only whilst engaging in a sexual act, but also watching or being watched.
- Naughty Truth or Dare
Incorporating games into your sex life is a sure bet to satisfaction. And the fun thing about naughty truth or dare, is that you can do it with just your partner or you could do it with a group of people, depending on how naughty you’d like to be.
This is an entertaining, erotic, and experimental way to really embrace your sexuality while learning and revealing intimate secrets and having lots of fun, and to try something that you’ve always wanted to.
- Remote Control Panties
For the ladies, lose all control with remote control panties. This is a sure way to get both partners excited for a number of reasons. The most obvious being the pleasure felt, but also the feeling of control for the male, and the building of suspense for the lady. Change the speed and the pulsating patterns for even more uncertainty and unexpected pleasure.
Go to a fancy restaurant and turn up the heat, go to the cinema, visit an art exhibition, stay home or go anywhere! Which ever you choose, it’s just you and your partner’s little secret.
Whether you’re in introvert or an extrovert, an adventurous soul or someone simple entertaining the idea of changing up a vanilla sex routine, there’s something for everyone. It’s all about sexual empowerment in a fun, exciting and safe way!
Helena Lorimer, Sexual Health and Wellness Expert at JOUJOU