The Beginners Guide to BDSM

The Beginners Guide to BDSM

THE BEGINNERS GUIDE TO BDSM

In all forms of sexual interaction, consent is vital, but especially in bondage and discipline, consensual sex and play is the only way! In the growing BDSM communities, consent is necessary for a safe and fulfilling sexual experience. Regardless of your sexual proclivity, kink or identification with any culture or subculture; sex cannot be safe without conversation, consideration, and consent. Talk to your partners about what you like and how you like it and agree on limits and safe words before you begin your journey together.


BDSM is an umbrella term used to identify members of kink communities which are involved in a variety of erotic practices that generally fall somewhere in a spectrum of kink. It attempts to combine three indicators which describe relationship dynamics that are not mutually exclusive: B/D stand for Bondage and Discipline, D/S is Dominance and Submission, and S/M Sadism and Masochism. Regardless of how you identify in the “community”, there are sex toy products you’ll enjoy.


The tying, binding or restraint of a partner for erotic, aesthetic or sensory stimulation is called bondage. Three tools are considered the most common for bondage; rope play, metal play and leather play. Nail down your safe word, and you’re bound to have fun!  


ROPE:

Kinbaku is a Japanese word meaning tight binding. This style of bondage involves binding using intricate patterns with rope to bind. Over the last twenty years, the western world has seen an uptick and growth in different forms of Kinbaku technique - no doubt box tie technique and other knots will have you fit to be tied.


For couples interested in rope play, try Fetish Fantasy Elite Bondage Rope for a body safe, resilient and stretchy experience without snapping. We have a selection of different rope that is bound to delight. From silk to latex, we have what you desire.


METAL:

Metal is another tool used for restraint and ensured immobility. The cold touch and clanking of chains create a wave of auditory and tactile stimulation when added to you and your partner’s dom/sub relationship. Whether in a dungeon or your bedroom, the weight and sound of metals can add another level to your inspiration. Metal sensory kinks and bondage bound will be assured a submissive stance with our Fetish Fantasy Spread ‘em Bar, and the cuff set could put you in just the right position for pleasure.


LEATHER:

Participants in leather subculture often distinguish themselves from the mainstream sexual culture through wearing leather garments. Grown out of the WWII biker culture, the subculture has existed since around the 1940s. Most visible in the gay communities, enthusiasts are nicknamed “leathermen.” Whether you are a leatherman or just excited by the smell or feel of leather on your skin, partners can find plenty of whips, crops, cuffs and restraints available in leather.  Try our Leather Eyemask for sensory deprivation fun, or if your sub needs to be taught a lesson today, maybe you need a little extra motivation with our Reversible Paddle.


In the comments, let us know your favourite toys for BDSM play!

Article by Sara at JOUJOU


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