How to have great shower sex: the positions and toys to make it even sexier

You’ve probably seen steamy scenes from a movie, tv show, or even porn, where shower sex looks so appealing. It’s hot, it’s sexy, it’s erotic. 

In reality, however, shower sex isn’t always amazing. There are some logistics involved, and only when you know what works and what doesn’t, can’t you really reap the benefits.

For that reason, we’ve compiled a guide on how to have great shower sex. You’re welcome!

Turn up the heat on your shower sex with these tips on best positions, toys, lubricant and much more.

Want to experience shower sex in all of its glory? After all, shower sex has a few extra benefits that non-shower sex doesn’t. 

For example, all the wetness and steaminess involved! Period sex, ejaculating and squirting—no mess. Plus, there are tons of waterproof sex toys to spice things up in the shower!

Today, we’ll look at:

• Why it’s a good idea to have sex in the shower
• The best sex positions for shower sex
• Shower sex tips
• Recommended sex toys for shower sex and foreplay

Ready to explore the enticing adventure that is shower sex?

Why have sex in the shower?

We’ve already mentioned a few reasons above why shower sex is a great idea. But there are a few other benefits to having shower sex.

For one, you’re already naked—an excellent start! Besides this, can you imagine the eroticism of it all? The foreplay involved can be such a thrill. Even the act of washing each other is intimate and exciting.

Then, you can move onto other acts of foreplay. Soaping each other up, rubbing each other’s erogenous zones, like their breasts, clitoris, and ass. Sliding one’s hand up and down a partner’s erection! These reasons alone are enough to give shower sex a go. 

But then there’s also the aspect of oral sex. Having one partner drop to their knees, feeling the warm water on their back, and the other leaning against the wall, receiving an abundance of pleasure. 

And of course, when it comes to penetrative sex, you can try a few new positions and simply enjoy the wetness of it all. There are way less constraints involved too, as we mentioned, as you can let your juices flow! Cleaning up is simple (basically non-existent). 

Whatever you consider to be the most erotic element of shower sex—whether it’s kissing, foreplay, oral sex, and/or penetrative sex—this activity can be really intimate, as it involves two people in a small space. This can add to its lustful appeal. 

Lastly, shower sex is great if you don’t have a lot of privacy. Say, for example, you live in a dormitory or crowded apartment. 

The best positions for shower sex

Finding the best positions for shower sex can take some time. It’s about finding a position that feels comfortable and arousing for both partners.

The best shower sex positions include:

1. Doggy style

This shower sex position works well because one partner can lean their hands against the wall for stability while the other penetrates them from behind.

2. The Ballet Dancer

The Ballet Dancer shower sex position means the one receiving penetration will face their partner, standing on one leg. Their partner will then grab and support their other leg and back. This is a more intimate shower sex position as it offers eye contact.

An easier alternative to the Ballet Dancer position is if you’re having shower sex in a bathtub/shower. In this case, the receiver of penetration can rest one leg on the side of the tub. 

3. Shower Seat Sex

If you can get your hands on a shower seat or bench, you’ll be offered much easier access to sensational shower sex. For example, one partner can recline on the bench facing away from their lover, then be penetrated from behind. 

Another shower sex position with a shower seat includes the partner being penetrated to lie on their back at the edge of the bench. They’ll then have their legs off the bench, and persist to put their legs on their partner’s chest. 

4. The White Lotus

This sex position is a popular one in general, but to practice it in the shower is a whole new experience. If you have enough space in your shower, one partner will straddle the other while both are seated. In this way, the one straddling can choose an angle that gives the best penetrative bliss. It’s also an intimate shower sex position, as it allows for eye contact.

5. Standing Oral

The name suggests it all… one partner will stand while the other will bend down or get on their knees. In this position, the one on their knees can give their partner standing oral sex whilst feeling the water flow. The giver of oral could also grab the detachable shower head to stimulate their partner.

Benefits of shower sex

As if the climatic sensations felt during sex in the shower isn’t enough, there are actually a few other benefits to having sex in the shower. 

For one, the warm water helps reduce tension in the body. This can leave both partners feeling more relaxed and more ready for other acts of sensual play.

Secondly, shower sex adds an element of variety to your sex life. Some couples may fall into a bedroom routine that gets boring. By simply changing the location of where you’re getting intimate, you could both experience a big and refreshing difference.

Thirdly, to have shower sex is to multitask. You can enjoy a bit of hanky panky then both get cleaned up and ready for the day. Not just that, but it also saves water.

And lastly, as mentioned, it makes any cleaning up absolutely effortless. You can enjoy period sex in the shower without having to worry about any mess, you can cum anywhere (including on your partner with consent), and if you’re a squirter, there’s no need to change the sheets. It’s a win for everyone involved. 

 

Shower sex tips

For good measure, here are a few extra shower sex tips to ensure you have safe, pleasurable, and transcendent shower sex fun.

• Invest in a non-slip shower mat to avoid any accidents.
• Don’t get too rough, as it could increase your chances of falling.
• Water is great to add wetness, but it isn’t actually lube. If you want to add lubricant into the mix, go for a silicone lube or an oil-based lube by Luvloob or Drip Oil, as it will last much longer in water. Lube is definitely recommended if you’re having anal sex in the shower.
• If you’re wearing a condom, put it on before you enter the shower. It’s much harder to put on a condom when in water. Also, be sure that it’s been put on correctly as water could increase the likelihood of slipping. 
• Avoid using bath oil or bubble bath as it can compromise the effectiveness of your condom.

Recommended toys for shower sex and foreplay

Here, we’ll take a gander at different lubes and sex toys that are perfect for your fantastic shower sex experience. Having these with you during your private steamy shower fun will make it even more hot and heavy.

Lube for shower sex

Above, we spoke a bit about lube and the fact that, while water does aid in some wetness, it’s not a substitute for lube. We also mentioned that silicone lube is a great way to go, but you could also go for an oil lube for shower sex.

Oil lubricant is amazing when it comes to shower sex because it doesn’t get washed away by water. One thing to note however, is that most condoms don’t pair well with oil lube, as it may break down the material.

We personally recommend the Luvloob Are You Keen Chocolate Natural Oil-Based Lubricant Flavoured Lubricant. It has a rich natural chocolate taste, many beneficial ingredients to provide nourishment on the skin, and it is long lasting. This means that it doesn't even need to be washed off at all. 

 

The Drip Oil Based Organic Coconut & Hemp Seed Lubricant is equally as great for shower sex. It’s easy to use with its controlled pump container, is fragrance and flavour free, and removes friction. It also has a sealable lid and removable cap, making it travel-friendly.

Sex toys for shower sex

And now for some seriously sexy sex toys for shower sex. 

From clitoral stimulation toys, nipple suckers, dildos, and rabbit vibrators, to penis rings, anal sex toys, male masturbators and prostate massagers, there’s something for everyone to enjoy in water.

Clitoral sex toys for shower sex

From the award winning sex toy brand, the LELO SONA Cruise 2 Clitoral Sonic Massager is a must-have for delicious clit orgasms. This waterproof sex toy gives you intense clitoral stimulation, even when the seal isn't as strong from all slipperiness.

 

The Womanizer Premium 2 Intense Clitoral Orgasm too is a waterproof treat with its ergonomic clitoral stimulator that can be held with ease. 

Nipple suckers for shower sex

Want to stimulate your nipples during solo shower play, oral sex, or anal or vaginal sex? The CalExotics Advanced Nipple Suckers are pliable, petite, and have been made to tease and please in and out of water.

Vibrating dildos for shower sex

 

Sculpted to replicate the human body, the Femme Fun Turbo Shaft 2.0 is all kinds of fun. It has a strong suction cup that’ll allow it to sit pretty on your shower wall, comes with a remote control, and eight different vibration modes. 

Rabbit vibrators for shower sex

Blended orgasms in the shower? Yes, please! Femme Fun Pirouette G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator stimulates both the clitoris and the G-spot with dual motors that move in a 360 degree motion. It has a strong suction cup, a remote control, and comes with eight different vibration modes.

Penis rings for shower sex

 

For those who want harder and stronger erections during solo play or penetrative fun in the shower, we love the LELO TOR 2 Vibrating Cock Ring. It’s luxurious, vibrates effortlessly, and is able to provide ultimate pleasure for both partners. 

The Satisfyer Epic Duo Vibrating Penis Ring is just as tantalising, and is perfect for anal or vaginal sex in water. It’s a cock ring that also stimulates her during penetration, making it twice as nice. It’s also app-enabled for fun outside of the shower!

Anal sex toys for shower sex

Love anal play? Want to have enjoy some anal stimulation in the shower? Go for the COLOURS Pleasures Small Silicone Butt Plug and you won’t be disappointed. It’s great for solo or partnered fun, comes with a suction base that’s easy to use, and is compatible with all kinds of lube.

 

Having said that, the Lovense Hush 2 Vibrating Butt Plug does steal the show when it comes to shower sex. Lovense is an exceptional brand, and their Hush 2 has one of the strongest butt plug vibrations on the market today. Simply insert this beautiful masterpiece and enjoy its spiraling stimulation.

Male masturbators for shower sex

The Fleshlight Shower Mount is the perfect accessory for those who own a standard Fleshlight male masturbator. It has a suction base that sticks to your shower wall, and an adjustable attachment so you can position it as comfortably and pleasurably as possible. Enjoy solo or with your lover.

Prostate massagers for shower sex

Two-in-one bliss for those who seek ultimate release. The Anal Fantasy Collection Ass Gasm Cock Ring Prostate Plug is not only a prostate massager but also, a cock ring. You can wear it for bigger, stronger erections during penetrative shower sex, or when you’re masturbating. Either way, you’ll feel this toy in all its glory… and absolutely love it.

If it’s simply prostate stimulation you’re after however, we recommend the WeVibe Vector+ Vibrating Prostate Massager. This bad boy targets the prostate as well as the perineum, giving you a subtle little boost into your next climax. With two motors, you’ll be having fun inside and outside of the shower.

We’re sure that you’re now ready to enjoy all of the benefits and sexual euphoria that comes with shower sex. Whether you’re solo, with a partner, using a toy or not, there’s a ton of fun to be had!