Due to the taboo nature of the strap-on, harness play is often associated with specific gender roles, sexualities, and identities. However, strap-ons are completely versatile and can be used by everyone no matter their gender or sexuality.
And actually, we believe that sexual exploration should be celebrated! So why not step outside of your comfort zone and into a harness instead?
What is a Strap-on?
A strap-on may seem intimidating but it’s essentially just a dildo sex toy worn with a harness. It is widely known to focus on intimate play with a partner, however, there are also harnesses designed for sensual solo play. And hey, it could even fulfill a sexual fetish you didn’t even know you had!
Strap-on sex toys are also versatile in nature and come in a multitude of designs. Strap-ons can be used for a wide variety of sexual activities, including vaginal sex, anal sex, and pegging.
Fun fact: Did you know that creative uses for strap-ons were already being experimented with in the 19th century? Indeed, there’s a Chinese painting that depicts a woman using a dildo that’s been strapped to her shoe!
What is a Strap-on Harness?
A harness is typically worn around your pelvis and secured comfortably to the body. A firmly-attached harness means better control over the movements of the dildo, allowing for a more in-sync, penetrative experience with your partner.
Also, there are numerous options to choose from when considering a harness. A strap-on comes in varying sizes and styles and if you are planning to use it with a partner, the selection process can even be a part of your foreplay experience, like a sexy joint effort.
Different Types of Strap-ons
The traditional harness is perfect for beginners. It slips on easily and can be adjusted to suit the wearer’s body measurements. It is worn around the waist with the dildo sitting on the pelvis.
Also worn around the waist, the double penetration harness is designed to pleasure the receiver and the wearer at the same time. It is similar to that of the traditional harness, however, there is an attachment on the inside for extra stimulation for both users.
Another variation is the strapless strap-on dildo, which doesn’t work with a harness but is shaped like a wishbone. With strapless strap-on dildos, the vaginal muscles hold the shorter end of the toy in place, whilst the longer side is phallic-shaped for penetrating a partner. The benefit is that the toy sits more naturally on the pelvis.
Then, if you’re looking for something to amplify your everyday masturbation routine, the solo strap-on adds an erotic flair to the traditional hand-held dildo. Simply attach the harness to a stable surface and allow the hands-free experience to rock your world.
How to Choose a Strap-on?
After selecting the size and style of the harness you would like to use, it is important to consider the material of both the harness and the dildo.
Harnesses are made from various materials; rope, leather, spandex, or possibly a combination. It is important to choose a material that will be worn comfortably for a prolonged period of time and that is easy to clean.
Also, if you plan to use your strap-on for anal play it is advisable to choose a nonporous dildo, as it is more hygienic and easier to clean. Silicone is a good material to use for beginners because it’s lighter and more flexible, increasing pleasure for the receiver.
The dildo you choose should align with your and your partner’s desires. If you are planning to use it for some saucy partnered play, turn it into a thrilling experience and choose one together. And if you’re hoping to use the strapon for some essential solo self-care, select a dildo that is a little sturdier so you don’t have to hold it in place.
How to Use a Strap-on for Solo Play
Go hands-free and secure your harness to a sturdy surface, or the back of your heel. Indulge in lasting pleasure and avoid the disappointment of a tired wrist.
A solo strap-on allows you to focus solely on the rhythm of your hips. In addition to stimulating those hard-to-reach pleasure spots, it eliminates the hassle of holding the dildo in place.
Another benefit of solo strap-on play is self-discovery and a deeper intimate connection with your body. Additionally, if you are interested in experimenting with anal but aren’t ready to take the plunge with a partner, a solo harness allows you the freedom to explore your body without expectations.
How to Use a Strap-on for Couples Play
Strapons have become increasingly popular with couples who enjoy experimenting and fulfilling their most intimate sexual fantasies. Also, adding a few extra inches to your bedroom play can benefit both you and your partner.
Many couples enjoy role reversal and using a strapon for oral and foreplay can add a new dimension to your sex life, with the focus being on other sensory aspects. Incorporating visual, auditory, and fantasy, as well as physical sensations in a uniquely satisfying way has the power to really transcend your playtime.
Anal play is a common use for strap-ons and can be an added pleasure for both you and your partner. A strap-on could be the answer when it comes to fulfilling your most erotic fantasies.
Also, a popular use for a strap-on is double penetration. In fact, it can be a complete game-changer, especially if you enjoy anal and love to make use of anal beads or butt plugs in the bedroom. Having your partner wear a strap-on will have you curling your toes with multiple, mind-blowing orgasms.
Another undiscovered gem couples are experimenting with is pegging. This is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a cisgender man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on. The prostate or the pleasure gland is easily accessible through the anus and can elicit stronger and more intense orgasms for men.
Should You Buy a Strap-on?
Strap-ons are a great toy to use to spice things up! They can be used by anyone and are a great addition to bedroom play.
They also allow you the freedom to be more creative and expand your sexual horizons.
Accompany your strapon with your favorite lube and indulge in your wildest fantasies. You’ll be totally dazzled and pleasantly surprised at where the ride will take you!
