Libido, aka sex drive, naturally fluctuates for both men and women. There isn’t a standard to which a ‘normal’ libido can be measured, because your libido is influenced by a number of different factors.
A change in hormones, age, one’s medical condition and mental health status can greatly affect how much or how little one experiences sexual desire.
Having a very low or a very high libido can impact individuals and partners, especially when two people experience mismatched libidos.
The good news, however, is that it’s possible to take steps to enhance your libido if you feel as though you are lacking in sexual desire. This can essentially help you to get your sexual groove back, putting you back on track and happier than ever.
What Causes a Low Libido?
As mentioned, there are a number of different things that can contribute to low libido, such as:
Psychological Stress: if you are experiencing stress or anxiety in spheres of your life, like your job, for example, this could have a direct impact on your sex drive. Depression too can affect your libido.
Medical Issues: For those who have diabetes, high blood pressure, are on certain kinds of medications or are going through other serious health problems, the libido can decrease.
Changes in Hormones: For men, low testosterone levels often equal a low libido. For women, things like pregnancy, dryness of the vagina, and menopause are some of the leading causes of low libido.
Side Effects of Low Libido and/or Mismatched Libidos
When one is experiencing low libido, it can have an impact on:
Relationships: This is especially true when you are with a partner whose libido does not match yours.
Mental Health: One may feel embarrassed, stressed, anxious, or depressed because of their inability to feel sexual desire. They may feel as though there is something wrong with them, which is not the case.
5 Natural Ways to Boost Your Libido
This may be one of the best kinds of ‘medicine’ when it comes to increasing one’s sexual desire. In a study, it was found that chocolate encourages the brain to release serotonin, which can improve one’s mood. It also may have a kind of placebo effect in that it’s more psychological than biological.
If you’re a lover of garlic, today is your lucky day. Did you know that garlic contains high levels of allicin which, in turn, increases blood flow? This is great for men who are going through erectile dysfunction.
When it comes to the mental reasons for low libido, the way in which you feel about yourself and your body can play a huge part in experiencing desire. Take some time to do things that you love, to list your attributes, and to tune out the voice that reminds you of your flaws.
4. Drink in Moderation
Drinking a glass of wine can definitely help you to relax, but when you drink in excess it has a negative impact on your ability to be intimate. It could affect a man’s ability to achieve an erection, and both men and women’s ability to orgasm.
When you are tired, you often experience a lack of energy, exhaustion, stress, and an inability to focus. And if you’re lacking sleep because of a busy schedule, this makes it difficult to make time for intimacy. Try to get consistent sleep every night, and to enjoy a diet rich in protein and low in carbs to boost your energy levels and motivation.
Additional Resources for Addressing Low Libido
If you feel as though these techniques haven’t made a big impact on your libido, or you would like to seek professional help, you could consider some of the following options:
Visiting your GP: Your doctor is far more equipped to help you with low levels of libido. They too have the ability to recommend a specialist if need be.
Visiting a psychosexual therapist: A sex therapist is qualified to help people on just about anything sex-related. Things like low libido, the inability to orgasm, erectile dysfunction, and premature ejaculation are a few things you can talk about with a sex therapist.
During this kind of therapy, you’ll not only look at your physical symptoms but also your psychological, as one’s mental health can strongly influence the way in which we see and experience sex and intimacy.
To end off, there’s nothing wrong with having a low libido. It happens to many people and is not a final diagnosis. There are steps you can take to get your sexual groove back, so just enjoy the journey and you’ll already be halfway there.
Helena Lorimer, Sexual Health and Wellness Expert at JOUJOU