BDSM is a collective umbrella term for bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism. Everyone has heard of it and we often mention it in passing but most of us have misconceptions. For example, some believe BDSM to be highly abusive or only enjoyed by people with related trauma, but that is not the vast majority of the community. There are set-up guidelines and consent is always needed, regardless of kink. Then there is After Care, which is when the dominant takes care of the submissive partner after the act is done. Ultimately BDSM is a large part of bonding for some couples! However, even if it isn't for bonding and is just purely sex, it's still safe, healthy, and fun for many people!
B for Bondage - a basic and always useful toy is a rope specifically designed for bondage, or a harness, cuffs, etc. You've also likely heard of sex swings, a bit more extreme. The Fetish Fantasy Bondage Swing is exactly what a couple who are already a bit seasoned in BDSM needs, or a couple confident enough to try out! This swing in particular locks your partner into place with a comfortable grip. The swing allows various positions for any of your desires which allows every part of the body to get some attention. This swing is sure to bring some grown-up playground fun into the bedroom!
If swings aren't quite your thing then the Sinful Bondage Kit might be for you. It includes a blindfold, cuffs for ankles and wrists, as well as a hogtie harness. It's made of super strong and easy to clean material so you can get just as messy as you want. Being tied down or seeing your partner vulnerable is a huge turn on, and for the submissive partner, the blindfold takes away visual abilities, meaning everything is a surprise. Its also known that by remaining one sense, you heighten all the others - it's for science!
Forced orgasms and edging are very common in BDSM. Because things get a little rough, it's important that your toy is powerful but will not accidentally harm your partner (remember: consensual pain is different from accidental harm!). You also don't want it to be a toy that might need new batteries or a charge up right in the middle of a session, so a dildo is usually the best choice. The Tiger is a dildo with deep ridges all around it for extra toe curling pleasure. Its great for use in forced orgasms as well as edging due to its quality and design! In the age of technology it's easy to forget that a simpler design can work better, and the Tiger certainly reminds us of this fact!
Of course a whip is always one of our first thoughts when it comes to BDSM. The Lelo Gift Set not only has a high quality whip but also their Luna Beads Noir. The whip is comfortable to use and is highly durable. The soft leather is teasing when its brushed against your skin, and stinging once you get whipped a second later. The Luna Beads Noir can be used at any time, but are especially great for BDSM with a whip. This bead set has balls inside of it that rotate and vibrate as you move. The movement is created by your own energy so when it comes to BDSM, where you're sure to have lots of twitching and bending, they will add all that extra pleasure. Even better, the balls and whip can be paired with any of the other toys; in fact it's ideal to do so.
BDSM is not just about the pleasure of the dominant, but for the submissive too. When choosing toys it's important to take your partner's feelings into consideration and always make sure that they are comfortable enough to be in the situation. If you have any other favourite JOUJOU toys for BDSM, mention them in the comments!
Article by Sara at JOUJOU
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