Takeaway: Ahhh, rimming: the oral stimulation of the asshole. Let’s be honest, everyone is fascinated and wants to try it but no one wants to be the first to say it in the conversation. Check out our tips to get started; once you try it you'll regret all the time you wasted being afraid to request it.
Anilingus. Rimming. Tossing salad. Eating ass. Rim job. We might as well call it the Promised Land. Everyone is curious, we all have questions we’re afraid to ask, and unless you just go for it, you're going to miss out. Anyone who doesn't like eating ass or having their own feasted upon is simply doing it wrong. There is no other way they could be not enjoying this. Here are a few easy tips to prepare for and enjoy rimming:
Clean up. This one’s obvious and it's what everyone is afraid of. Just make sure you keep yourself clean. Before any anal play, use soap and water with a hand cloth to freshen up. I'm not just talking a dry toilet paper swipe; you might be surprised and embarrassed if that's all you do. Make sure you've recently had a bowel movement before you begin play time, unless you are very regular and know there won't be surprises. Politely decline if you're feeling sick or gassy; there will be plenty of other opportunities. You can even make a hot shower or bubble bath part of the foreplay if you'd like; that will build everyone’s confidence about cleanliness.
Keep trimmed. If you have a particularly hairy booty, keep it groomed. We don't like to judge in the body hair department, you do your thing! But if you're anti-hair removal and have more than the average God’s gift of body hair, you might consider not participating or at least being VERY THOROUGH in step 1.
Tease a little. If we’re being honest, rimming is often the loosening-up stage before anal sex, but going right for rimming can be a little shocking too. Begin by reaching behind your partner during foreplay and kissing and lightly fingering and caressing the asshole. This will work even with partners who've failed to have the conversation - it feels so pleasurable they'll want more, and it will relax them first.
Spread ‘em. Hold your legs back so there’s easier access, and let your partner spread your cheeks and push you into the position he or she needs to go. You'll want plenty of room for all the exploration your partner can handle. The position you want to take, on your knees or back, really depends on preference. I prefer my back and all-fours doesn't really work as far as the receiver’s stimulation, but many like to be kneeling. Rest your upper body against a chair back or something else sturdy while on your knees and sticking your booty into the air.
Don’t forget the details! Listen, rimming is a universally enjoyed activity no matter what gender you identify as or what parts you carry. If you're rimming your man, don't forget his balls and his dick. Cradle his balls and suck on them. Lick, kiss, suck and touch his cock too. For the ladies, be a little more careful as ass-to-vaginal play can cause nasty painful infections, but massage and finger the goods while you're orally satisfying below.
Use flavours to distract. If you're still worried about offensive tastes or smells, consider a flavoured lube or dental dam, or keeping a favourite drink on hand. JO Cherry Burst has a great flavour and it's a sweet tart taste that foul hints won't break through. It's safe to ingest and water-based so you can use it with toys also. JOUJOU has a ton of other flavoured lubes to try.
Don't forget to bring the toys. Maybe you're wanting some anal action but you're solo or maybe your partner is ready for butt play but not with their tongue. Try the B-Vibe Rimming Plus, a plug with rotating base to massage and vibrate its way gently in. The Beaded Backdoor Rabbit will be your new best friend. Designed for anal play, the beads at the base provide a dimming sensation too, and has the rabbit ear design for clitoral stimulation too. The Anal Fantasy Beginners Bead Collection is a great bead set you may enjoy inserting to intensify the pleasure you feel during rimming.
Clean-up. Normally clean-up isn't much different than with normal sex; some couples don't even bother or not every time. It's a quick run to the bathroom where you'll normally find that any sensation you had to go the bathroom has now disappeared, but you'll just need to quickly wipe down with soap and water and a towel, at most. Clean any toys immediately with a water-based lube. The Jo Toy Cleaner is JOUJOU’s most popular toy cleaner disinfectant and can be used on any materials.
Rimming is one of our greatest fascinations and pleasures but everyone's afraid to mention it first. Start by bringing up ass play and anal sex in general and then ask if they've ever tried rimming. If you're willing to perform and not just receive, offer your services before requesting them in return. Relax, enjoy it, and be comfortable! If you have any tips or sexy stories, tell us in the comments!
Article by Sara at JOUJOU
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