If you’re looking for a few new and innovative ways to get off with your partner, let us welcome you into the world of BDSM. That is, Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism.
And while many believe that things of that nature are scary and intimidating, there are, of course, varying degrees to which you can enjoy it.
Just because you once saw a dirty video of someone being smacked around whilst wearing a leash doesn’t mean that that’s all BDSM is about.
And so, let’s dive into an adventure. One that gets things just a tad bit hotter in the bedroom, shall we?
Handcuffs
This piece of equipment is nothing new. We’ve all seen handcuffs carried by police, and perhaps 50 Shades of Grey has given you a little peek into the world of restraints. For that reason, we hope they’re less intimidating for you.
Handcuffs can be worn around the wrists or the ankles, and can be attached to a bed frame, spreader bars, or any other firm surface that allows. They’re usually made of metal, plastic, (fake) leather, or nylon.
What’s the appeal? For some, their daily life consists of important things to do and remember, long lists to tackle, and situations that require constant control. When you wear handcuffs with a trusted partner however, it gives those with huge responsibilities a bit of ‘down-time’. It’s a way in which to just let go and focus on pleasure.
And for those who feel less dominant in their every day lives, being the one in control of a handcuffed partner can be a huge turn on and an ego boost.
Blindfolds
Just a simple piece of cloth covering the eyes can have a huge impact in the bedroom for both men and women – and for different reasons.
Did you know that out of the five senses, women are most aroused by sensual touch? So by wearing a blindfold, they are able to really focus on the joy of being touched. And for men, their most valued sense is sight, which makes things quite an interesting challenge for them.
Whichever the gender, wearing a blindfold means firing up the ol’ imagination in all its glory. It’s also been found that those whose eyes are covered during intimacy find it easier to conjure up fantasies in their mind, causing even more arousal.
Plunge Paddles
The expression, “Who’s been a naughty boy/girl?” is recognised worldwide for a reason. There’s just something so satisfying about getting up to mischief… and getting delightfully punished for it.
Which is why using toys, such as a paddle or a suede whip, can be such a turn on. If you’re new to the whole thing, don’t fret. There are tons of resources available showing you how it’s all done… and you can most certainly take it as slow as you and your partner please. And hey, you may just find your next favourite thing to do in the bedroom!
Feather Tickler
Another way in which to enhance the feeling of sensual touch, is to use a feather tickler. The soft, tantalising feathers cause a tickling sensation that may very well lead to goose bumps and heightened arousal.
What’s fun about using a feather tickler, is that it’s 100 percent about pleasure and building suspense. For sure, a smooth tickle across your partner’s body, slow and seductively, will cause tingles and excitement in all the right places.
Essential Tips for BDSM beginners
So you’re ready to give a few of these enticing practices a go? Here are a few essential tips to consider:
- Trust, respect and safety are the most important things when it comes to practicing BDSM with a partner.
- Make sure to have guidelines and a mutual understanding of expectations before playtime.
- Choose a safe word.
- Know your partner’s limits.
- Be patient and understanding.
- Learn how to use your toys and learn your techniques before playtime.
- Indulge in nurturing after care with your partner after playtime. This could be via cuddles, a warm shower together, or a massage.
See, the wonderful world of BDSM and kink isn’t that scary, now is it? Get started with these four BDSM toys and see how you like it. If it appears to be right up your alley, there’s a whole new world of pleasure waiting for you.
Picture nipple clamps, nipple suckers, ball gags, rope play, chastity cages, and electro-stimulators!
Do you dare?
Article by:
Helena Lorimer at JOUJOU
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